Dr. Randy Wysong

The loss of loved/liked ones is inevitable.

The tragedy is not so much for the one who has passed as it is for those who remain and suffer guilt, regrets and loneliness. There is no adequate way to prepare for and no way to escape tragedy other than to die before anyone close to you does or be a recluse and not permit close relationships. However, close, loving relationships are a wonderful part of life.

Perhaps the pain we feel from the loss of a loved one is to teach us the very meaning of life, love, and to treat it well when we have it. But everything should be in measure. To throw oneself totally into another person and lose self and independence is a formula for disaster. When the loved one is gone, meaning can be lost which in turn can jeopardize health and life. Love well, but always keep a part of yourself that can survive in the absence of the loved one. Rejection by someone you love can bring almost the identical pain and suffering as losing someone to death. It can be even worse since the lost person’s presence continues as a constant reminder. The wound is irritated, scraped, reopened again and again. The best way to survive tragedy is to plan for it. For one thing, if you are self-developing, as this book is encouraging you to do, you will have an independent life that you can fall back on. But also know beforehand that there will be no quick or easy healing. Pain and sorrow are part of the healing process. Do not assume life is ending or that the acute pain will remain forever. (source: articlerich)

But there is an earthly healing though. By learning to grief our pasts, and then forgive, we can break our bonds and find the happy, meaningful, and abundant life we all deserve.

The first step is to understand grief. Regardless of the loss you’ve suffered, whether it’s a relationship, a job, a family member, or anything else, you need to grief. Grief helps you accept your loss. By accepting your loss, you can let go of the pain. Often your loss will be associated with other people, and often your loss is the result of hurt inflicted on you by another person. Sometimes we are responsible for the hurt and allowed it to happen; other times, in the case of a crime, it’s simply something we have no control over. Without forgiveness, we can never be free, and that’s the next step.

Once you understand the grief process, it’s time to move through the stages. By moving through the stages of grief, then you can begin to heal -  Jinger Jarrett (source: articlerich)

Considering tragic events (RIP: Bernie Mac, Isaac Hayes, Farrah Fawcett, David Carradine, Michael Jackson) in the past week, month/s, year/s, this was commendable food for thought.

Preparation and anticipation is the panacea to the aftermath of a passing, because we as dust will be blown away like the unseeing breeze – onthebuzz.com. God at the helm of things, mind, have a butchers and bring to a close!